so im going to both the garden party and following alice this july because why the fuck not. I just need to sell my old clothes to raise some money because those events aren’t cheap but it’s going to be greeeaaaat (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧
So I decided to go to the French Café Garden Party event but if there is still tickets should I go to Following Alice the day before or not
like i’m going to a lolita event I can go to two lolita events
theres still the problem of going alone though, even if I’ll see faces I know from tumblr I’m still a bit scared I might end up not really talking to anyone because there’s already groups and I’m like… “hey I was in the community like years ago and I still love lolita… hello…. …… …” (actually no don’t mention I was in the community once because I’ve found pictures from meets back then and oh my god. no.) (We were 14 we have some excuses to look terrible) (but still)
my fall back into japanese music is terrible at first I started listening again to some pretty decent music and some cool nostalgic anime openings
and now I have made a two hours long kat-tun and yamapi playlist
I have no shame
my 15yo self would be proud
i fucking hate tumblr so much seriously
you guys are always like “i want equality!” except gay people are better than straight people and women are better than men and poc are better than white people and trans people are better than cis people
if you claim you want equality, but put someone down because they’re privileged, that doesn’t make you an advocate for equality, it makes you an asshole
you guys should probably read that and realize that all those “I hate white cishet” post aren’t about gay/trans people, and poc and other oppressed group being better than the oppressors… Just let people vent in a space they consider safe, because it makes them feel better and won’t do any of you white cishet real harm. There’s a reason there’s so much of it on tumblr, and it’s because doing it irl could endanger their lives.
Two more things : when people post that kind of “I hate white cishet men they suck” posts, they’re not always advocating for equality -actually, some might not be advocating for equality at all- and are just expressing their personal feelings.
And if you are part of an oppressive group and feel offended by this kind of post, you should probably question why you feel like this and then change your attitude because there’s a lot of chances you are doing something wrong and oppressive.
(Also, personally, I don’t care if my oppressors thinks the way I act and think makes me an asshole and that I’m not helping my cause or whatever. Just, fuck you. I have all rights to be angry and I don’t owe to anyone to be nice because it might hurt their feelings on tumblr. And I know I’m not the only one who think like this.)
(sorry for the long text, it’s just I’ve seen like 5 posts like this on my dash in two days, and at some point I had to say something. Since my writing might be messy and not very clear, let me recommend you those blogs : This one, and this one.)
Not all conversations are for everyone.
That is something that I have learned over time.
There are conversations that I am not supposed to be part of because they are internal 600 level conversations within a marginalized community that I dont need to derail.
And that is something that too many so called “allies” don’t get. They think they should have access to any and all convos had by marginalized people, with absolutely zero fucking knowledge of the issue at hand.
You don’t go into a Ph.D level dissertation demanding they stop and educate you at the 099 level your ass is at and get mad when they decide they aren’t going to be bothered with you. It makes you look fucking dumb and shows that you are self centered and you dont care about the cause, just how YOU look.
after you’ve been through like a string of fandoms and you’ve decided your favourite character/s for each one, there will come a day when you will list all your faves from each fandom side by side and look at them carefully and realise
you have a type
people being surprised that a white cishet male actor isn’t knowledgable on lgbtq+ issues
even if he is a really nice person he is extremely privileged and as much as we have the right to wish he knew and cared more about those issues, it’s not surprising that he doesn’t
or maybe I’m just a pessimist idk